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The Honeymoon Effect: Bruce Lipton's Insights on the Science of Love

Jul 25, 2013 12:15PM ● By Linda Sechrist

Bestselling author Bruce Lipton, Ph.D., is a stem cell biologist and international leader in bridging leading-edge science in cell behavior and physiology with Spirit. The Honeymoon Effect: the Science of Creating Heaven on Earth is his latest book. He will be a keynote speaker at the International Gathering of Eden Energy Medicine (IGEEM) in Orlando, Florida, September 18 to 22.

Did you intend for The Honeymoon Effect to be part of a trilogy?

Only when I completed it did I realize that it was a third leg of a trilogy, and all part of the same pattern. My first book, Biology of Belief, is about how your beliefs create your personal health, biology and life experiences. Spontaneous Evolution explains what happens when you become part of a large number of people that share the exact same beliefs, together manifesting the physical life that we experience and the world we live in based upon those beliefs. In-between personal beliefs and total global communal beliefs is The Honeymoon Effect, where we each follow our fundamental biological imperative that propels us to bond lovingly with other people and be part of a community.

What happens if we believe that we aren’t loveable?

The function of mind is to take a belief and create reality from what you believe. If you believe you are not lovable, unconsciously all your behavior will generate experiences that will prove to you that you aren’t lovable. You can’t get out of that rut unless you change that belief.

In my workshops, I ask people to make the statement, “I love myself.” I evaluate them using muscle testing [kinesiology] to see if they really believe it. Based on my experience in hundreds of lecture halls, more than 80 percent of attendees never test positive. Following the logic of this, if 80 percent of our entire population does not hold the belief that they are loveable, then they are denying that others can love them. Why this is so makes sense when I explain to my audiences that subconscious programs, one of which is “I do not love myself,” control 95 percent of their behavior.

Explain how the two minds—the conscious and subconscious—work.

The conscious mind, your creative mind, holds thoughts about who you are and what you want from life. Not bound by time, the conscious mind lets go of the present moment to respond to a question about what you’re doing tomorrow, what you did last week or to imagine something else. The common factor is that every time your conscious mind engages in thought, it disconnects from the current moment and your default subconscious programs takes over to seamlessly carry on. This happens a lot when we drive a car.

The significant issue is that the conscious mind attends to the present moment only 5 percent of the time. The rest of the time it flips through thoughts, leaving subconscious beliefs and behaviors playing automatically. The problem with this is that your fundamental beliefs, habits and behaviors, as well as your personal identity in the subconscious, consist of unfiltered remarks and observed behavior from parents, family members, the community, school, church, etc.—programming that was acquired between the womb and age 7, before the conscious mind was working.

Your default subconscious programs, acquired in early childhood, do not support the desires, goals and aspirations of adulthood unless you reprogram your beliefs. When you operate from your conscious mind and are mindful—The Honeymoon Effect—the subconscious programs do not play.

How do we know what our subconscious programming is?

What you seek in life and have to struggle for, and infrequently attain, shows you what is not supported by the beliefs in your subconscious, whether it’s health, a relationship or a desired job. What you are actually struggling against and putting your efforts into is overcoming resistance to a program that doesn’t support the outcome you want.

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Linda Sechrist is a senior staff writer for Natural Awakenings. See for the recorded interview.